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  I went to an all girls school, Aburi Girls to be precise. High school taught me alot of different things. High school was not always fun but we made it fun especially on our entertainment night and freaks. Freaks are known as funfair; we invite schools to come have a good time and also to socialize. The girls become hyper when the days are approaching to the freak day. Everyone wants to look their best.  I don't if you guys did that but everyone had a new uniform set aside for such days and I did that as well. This new uniform was hemmed very well so that you can attract the guys coming. Yeah......Seeing guys were like dreams come true.....you know right! Another tip was that people used keysoap in their hair to activate curls. Keysoap is a kind of soap used here in Ghana to wash clothes. I never knew you could actually do that. Another tip was that when you are been given any uniform take a smaller one. Do that and thank me later. Another is that when you are laying your bed you

  When I was a child, I fantasized about the idea of having a fairytale relationship which will lead to marriage.  I realized when I was 18yrs that, that never happens but rather it takes maturity to actually build a family you crave for.  Different strokes for different folks right? Everybody's love story is different and the way people build their homes are also different. You do what makes you both happy. Understanding, honesty, communication, compromising and been opened is so important in all love stories but the unique thing is they do things differently with these same things. I believe anyone out there who is seeking to have that one special person is very possible. Just leave everything in the Lord's hands, work on yourself and love yourself. Always remember "Everyone has a special someone out there, all you have to do is be patient and seek the face of the Lord". #positivevibesonly PEACE!!!            SHALOM!!!

  Are you been bullied in school? Are people downgrading you all the time? Do you feel out of place? Do you isolate yourself all the time because you are scared of what people will say? Are you always sad because you feel you are in this world alone? Stop allowing people talk you down Stop hiding and show yourself more Stop feeling you are out of place because that alone says you are unique Don't be moved by what people tell you, for what they say is just a reflection of themselves. Just enjoy yourself Love yourself more Embrace new adventures Make new plans Try new things and just enjoy life because God has given you everything. You've got nothing to loose. Just smile and avoid toxic people Always remember "Enjoy your life to the fullest" #positivevibesonly PEACE!!!          SHALOM!!!

  Have you been meaning to start a business? Are you scared it won't work? Are you worried about capital? Are you worried about the risks involved? What is stopping you? Don't be scared! Allow that fear to leave you and visualize your dreams. See them evolve right infront of you and smile. For if you can see it, it will come to pass. You just have to believe it in your heart and accept it in your mind that it will work. Speak words of positivity to yourself and just start the business. For nothing begins without you. Start putting your words into action. It is well. Always remember "Faith without works is dead" #positivevibesonly PEACE!!!            SHALOM!!!

  Do you know the kind of friends you mingle with? Will they be there for you when you are in crises? Do they gossip about you to people? Are they capable of keeping your secrets? Are they loyal? Are they the type that will stay with you in adversity? Are they truly your do or die friends? Are they friends that will support you no matter what? Are they the type who will tell you the truth when you need their honest opinion? Are they the type who will help you grow in maturity? Friends are people who add value to our lives, they help us to be better and they stick with us when we are in a mess. They are always there whenever we need them.  Beware of the kind of people you call friends because some friends will only bring you troubles and some can bring you fortunes. Choose wisely for bad company corrupt good character. Always remember "Surround yourself with people who bring you love and light" #postivevibesonly PEACE!!!           SHALOM!!!

  Back in high school, people told me I had an attitude but I was just being me. I know what I wanted and I know what I didn't like. I didn't want to conform to people's ideology because I saw people doing that. They wanted to be part of a clique either a group of friends that were from a rich family or a group of friends that knew people from famous schools. I went to an all girls school so the ladies were crazy about presec boys from legon, mfantsipim, adisco etc. I realized that most people who were in cliques just did that so that they wouldn't be termed as boring or anti-social but most importantly there were people who just saw other ladies as not good enough. My sitting partner was that type. She always belittled my efforts and underestimated me all the time. I hated that alot but one thing I knew was that her word on my life will never stand because I believe there's nothing in this world that you cannot learn. If that's your dream and that's your go

  Love is a wonderful thing. It is the most powerful thing anyone can experience. Love moulds you to become better and also teaches you good values. Loving yourself allows you to love another person because you clearly understand what you are giving. It's beautiful to see two people madly in love with each other. Anyone who doesn't love him/herself is not capable of loving anyone because they don't understand what they are giving out. People misuse the word love for their own selfish reasons. People like this experience karma afterwards. They will not realize it but when they do, they start to regret their actions. If someone loves you with all their being and you end up hurting them in more ways than one, it's hard to find someone like that again. That right there is 'You don't know what you have until you loose it'. Love when you are ready and stop messing with people's hearts. Always remember " Love is priceless" #positivevibesonly PEACE!!!

 I never saw myself writing about this but I think I have to. This generation is becoming something else. Children of young ages practicing money rituals, teenagers getting pregnant and aborting them, adolescents practicing prostitution, yahoo yahoo, young adults dating sugar mummies and daddies etc. but this one takes the cake. LGBTQ.....Hmmm The first time I heard of transgender was from Kyle Jenner's father who is now a female and I have also seen some in series and on YouTube. Every video I listen to about the transgender,gay and lesbianism they all talk about they not feeling themselves in their bodies. They feel like being the opposite sex. Anytime I hear this I start to wonder why will one decide to be the opposite sex or practice Same sex marriage or dating. The bible tells us that God never makes mistakes so if these people come out to say they are not meant to be this or that, then what do they really mean. Are they saying God made a mistake? Are they saying God doesn'

Life is not easy. The journey alone is frustrating sometimes.  Sometimes I wonder why a lady will go into prostitution or why a guy will do illegal businesses. I understand that life can be difficult but don't allow desperation to lead you into loosing your life or having to go against your values or your principles. I know there is alot of people out there struggling,  committing suicide, doing arm robbery, etc. Life is indeed a struggle. I for one can attest to that. You can break down at times when you realize the burden is too much. The word of the Lord tells us that he doesn't give us more than we can bare and everything that is happening to us is certainly not permanent but just temporal. We have to believe that and have faith that everything will be well. I know is not easy to keep believing that everything will be fine but if you pray for God's guidance, wisdom, knowledge and understanding, you will get to be optimistic and also understand certain things. May the Lo

  There was this day I took the trotro to some place. I have forgotten where exactly I was going. Well 'trotro' is a bus we take to any place of your choice when you are low on cash or you are on a budget or you just want to have a feel of it. This very day I was sitting next to the mate. A mate is someone the collects the money in the trotro and calls out places the trotro is going to alert people. I couldn't stand the odour oozing out of the mate's body. It was so bad. I had to hold my nose the whole time. Sometimes I wonder if these mates do not take their bath before they start their early morning routine. Spraying your body with perfume will even make it worse; that is what some of them do even the driver. Personal hygiene is very important it can make or break you. Taking care of yourself is very important especially your personal hygiene. Brushing your teeth at least twice a day and bathing at least twice a day, using a deodorant after a shower are basic things o

  I don't understand why seamstresses and tailors are always lying.  Did they go to school of lying and studied the course lying affairs and graduated with a first class degree? aahhbbaa!!! This is too much. Does this happen everywhere or just in Ghana? I really want to know. Let me tell you guys a story. There was this day I gave my cloth to this tailor to sew a dress for me. He told me that by next week it will be ready so that I can come for it. I told him I will be there next week. The following week I went there and he told me it wasn't ready that I should give him another week. I asked him if he was sure. He said yes and I left.  I came back the following week and he told me it wasn't ready. I got furious and I told him to give me my cloth because he wasn't being honest and truthful to me. Even as I am speaking to you a seamstress has my cloth that is yet to be done. Can you imagine? I hate this kind of treatment. Why can't they be truthful for once in their l

  Cohabitation is the agreement between two cowards. This statement was said on a counselling show I love watching. To think of it, it is very true.  Why would you cohabit with your boyfriend/girlfriend when you guys are not married? Is this not cowardice. I don't understand why a lady would carry her bags to her boyfriend's house and live there. What are you looking for there? Are you married to him? Is that your house? Is that where you live?  This is why guys see ladies as cheap because immediately you do that, you start acting like a wife; doing laundry, having sex with him, cooking, washing dishes, cleaning etc. Madam who send you? This thing that you are doing you are prolonging your marriage because you are already giving him everything he wants so what will push him to marry you. Absolutely nothing!!! You will be there and you will see wedding cards with another lady's name on it.  What gets me pissed about this whole thing is that some ladies even end up aborting o

 Of late people have been personating themselves to be people that they are not. Recently, I had a message from a minister on LinkedIn and he was telling me about what the New Patriotic Party is doing to get all unemployed people employed but the way he was talking you would clearly know that this person is fake. This same thing happened to my friend as well and she also quickly knew this person was a fraudster because of the kinds of questions the person was asking. People are using celebrities pictures to scam and defraud people.  Others are even telling stories that will easily  convince you so that you can either do something for them or you send them money. Some too are on those buy and sell platforms such as jiji, EBay, tonaton etc. defrauding people. There are some who have taken it upon themselves to go into mobile money defrauding business. Taking people's hard earned money from their Mobile money wallet. This thing happened to my mother some time ago and it was really hea

  Be selfish with your happiness. Guard it jealously. Happiness is free Peace is free So choose wisely. Living everyday with a positive mindset helps you to grow and mature in every aspect of your life. You do things that bring productivity and you do not waste time unnecessary tantrums or negativity from people because you have reach the level of actualisation. You know who you are and you know where you want to be and You are doing things that will take you there. Be mindful of the things you say with your mouth because what you say is powerful so always say words that bring you good fortune. Always remember " A positive mindset with a positive attitude generates wealth". #positivevibesonly PEACE!!!             SHALOM!!!

  I was having a discussion about marriage with a friend. He told me he is afraid of getting married because of the things that has been happening in our society.  According to him he does not understand why someone will get married and later get divorced after so many years. He also doesn't understand why someone will pretend in a relationship and when they get married they show their real traits. Hmmm.... disheartening right? Many ladies today are dating rich men no matter the age just because of money. Some say is love but who are you to argue. Hmmm.. Many men today are now dating sugar mummies just because of money. Hmm... Marriage is not a money transaction. I remember when I was in the university, I would  hear some of my classmates who were females say I want a rich man who will cater for me so that I can just sit down at home and do nothing. When I heard that I just looked at them and went back to what I was doing. After all the school fees, the job experiences, skills you&

 Nobody knows tomorrow. Stop underestimating people. If you can't help them then don't bad mouth them. Everyone's path is different. Everyone has a unique personality that is why no one can be you and that's your power. You are special. Do not overthink or doubt yourself. You can do it. Manifest it with your mouth and you will surely get it. Let go of anything that is pulling you back and practice positive thinking which will change your mindset and allow you to be confident and attract positive energy wherever you go. Don't allow anyone to dim your light. Do you and master the act of loving yourself. God loves you. Always remember " Don't allow anyone ruin your happiness". #positivevibesonly PEACE!!!                SHALOM!!!

  I am not married yet but with the things I have been told by married people, from television, radio and the internet I know I can give my opinion about it. Marriage is a union between two people. It is a divine institution created by God. "A man shall leave his mother and father and cling to his wife and they shall become one flesh". Many times when two people meet they don't take their time to know themselves well for eg; background, business, take on finances and children, responsibilities etc. Some of this things are very vital and you should know. If they rush through it without the necessary information they sometimes end up quitting  the marriage. When two lovely couples stand in front of the alter to say their 'I dos' what they sometimes mean is 'I'll try' but they forget that this is not an exam you are trying your hands on rather it is a long term commitment you are making to your significant other, someone you love. Mean the words you say

  Rape is a very sensitive topic. Most people do not like talking about it because of the trauma that comes with it. Some guys think when a lady smiles at you and acts friendly is a go ahead for sex. When she says no, it becomes a problem and the man brutally rapes her. One thing these men do not understand is they have no authority to demand sex or to force sex. Sex is a mutual act. When the other person is not in agreement you can't force him or her. Sex is meant to be enjoyed and not to feel pain and hurt. These victims that go through this kind of brutality sometimes end up commiting suicide. Some can't forget that traumatic experience. Some never want to get married. Others have to go through series of therapy just to feel alright. Nobody deserves to go through this act. I know men do go through rape but the women are more. Those out there raping people should stop. Karma is a bitch.  Always remember "If you are a victim I want you to see a shrink and give yourself s

  She has the strength of ten thousand soldiers She hardly sleeps but yet still she is able to take care of everyone and herself She is a superwoman She works multiple jobs but still a manager at home She's multi talented and fun to be with Her cooking is like no other  The little she gets she till shares it among her children She sacrifices alot  She feels pain and hurt sometimes but you will never see the signs She always wants the best for her family so she never settles for laziness, indiscipline and rudeness She extends her motherly love everywhere she goes Her love is infectious She never stops doing her best even if it will cost her  She's the Yaa Asantewaa of our time She's strong willed and never will allow any distraction in her home She uses the word of God to fight her battles at home because she acts as a guardian  Without her, nothing works Without her, the home will be in chaos and in a mess With just a sign with her eye, you know what she means  She never re

  Don't rush in life. If it is not your season, is not your season. You can't rush it. God in his indefinite wisdom knows exactly what he is doing and you can't rush him to do yours immediately. That is why he is all knowing and knows the end from the beginning. He knew you before you were born  He knows where you will be in the next 5, 10, 15 years. He knows it all. You don't need to help him out to do that and please do not do anything that will mess up your life. That alone will be suicidal. All you have to do is do your part and leave the rest to him. Believe and trust in Him. Patiently wait on him and he will never disappoint you. His word tells us in Philippians 4:6-7"we should be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with Thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus". You don't have to rush or be worried

  I I know you are heart broken. You can't believe what happened. You thought he/she was the one You can barely think straight You feel lonely and alone You miss him/her so much It happens but sometimes is a blessing in disguise  Other times you have to sit down again and think really hard if the problem was from you or the other person and work on yourself If it wasn't of a big issue or that complicated you guys can get back together but if it was then it is not worth it. Put yourself together Give yourself time to heal Go to places where you can relax and free your mind Reward yourself with some skin care or a full makeover Go about your business and make that money hun The right man/woman for you will come, it all depends on you. So stop feeling lonely and start smiling. You roooocccccckkkkkkk!!!! Always remember "Healing starts from you" #positivevibesonly PEACE!!!          SHALOM!!!

  Some people work tirelessly without having to take time off for self care. We know you love what you do but taking time out to rest and rejuvenate is very important. It elongates your life span because too much stress doesn't do any good to you. It rather makes you weak and you end up looking older than your age.  I know sometimes you get scared leaving your job in the hands of someone else because you feel the person may not handle it better like the way you would. Thinking like this makes things difficult. This person is there to learn and also be better by the day so trust me that person can handle it. Go to the spa, give yourself some relaxation. Get some massages, facials, get into a sauna and end it with a jacuzzi bathtub. With this kind of treatment you will end up feeling like you are reborn. You can also join a dance class; like salsa, kizomba, zumba, afrobeats etc. Dance is also a good way to free your mind and let go of all the bad energies and just flow with the music

  When I was in the university, I use to hear a lot of stories and saw certain things.  I realized that some of the ladies were envious of some other ladies who probably had enough cash to spend and had a different dress or bag on every day. I even heard some rich sugar daddies came to the school to take some of the ladies out during the weekends. Some ladies were from rich backgrounds so money wasn't really a problem. Some ladies who realized they weren't rich as them became envious and they decided to go out with other married men but what they didn't know is that some of these men had HIV. When you see these men, you can't detect they have it because of the ARVs they were taking.  Apparently, this is what these men do because they know the women are just after their money and they have that in abundance. In societies nowadays, alot of people get envious of their friends and they sometimes even end up selling their souls to the devil just to be more than their friends

  Do you love yourself? Do you appreciate who you are? How do you see yourself? Do you compare yourself to others? Do you workout for people or for you? Do you do things to hurt your feelings? Do you starve just to look your best or for society's sake? Nobody can love you like the way you love yourself except God because he is the one who created us. If you compare yourself to people you will always feel depressed and insecure about your personality or your body. If you starve just to fit in society's idea of a beautiful body you will kill yourself. If you go to the gym to workout because of people's opinions about you then you are wasting your time. If you are doing things just to impress people and hurting yourself in the process then please stop. It is not worth it. Many at times we try too much just to be perfect. See those who have undergone plastic surgeries; nose job, fillers in the cheeks and other parts of the face and all that. At the end of the day, 90% of them l

 Someone will say I own this house. The other person will say I own several companies as well as other properties. This person will say I come from a rich home and I only wear designer clothes straight from Turkey etc. Oga!!!!....Madam!!!.... are you not tired? Aaabbba!!!! You never retire? You get degree for lying? Eeeeiii!!! man don suffer. After all these boasting, what they wear from head to toe are all borrowed. The car they are using are rented. The high profile pictures you see on their social media handles are all photoshopped or belong to other people. They live in rented apartments or scouting with a friend. Chale, life is not a competition oo. Be true to yourself and who you are. Being honest is waaaaayyyyy better. I know some of you will say fake it till you make it but that alone is a hustle. You will have to keep up with your looks everyday. Jumping from one boutique or shop to another to borrow. Doing all sort of things just to keep up. Ohhh isn't this tiring??? Why

  Yesterday I was on tick tock and I saw a video of a lady talking about how she filed a court injunction on her boyfriend and the court just brushed it off for no reason. According to this lady, she made the video so that the world would know if anything should happen to her, her boyfriend is responsible. Her boyfriend abuses her physically and he has a weapon. This lady is from the States. People think Africa is the only place violence is but the truth of the matter is it's everywhere. We have to work together, forget the justice system and do things that will help us because clearly these people think about themselves and no one else. We have to change the narrative otherwise we'll have a lot more loosing their lives in silence. Always remember "Violence is dangerous. It has consequences. Let's say no to violence and no one deserves that kind of torture". #positivevibesonly PEACE!!!         SHALOM!!!